i am an INTP. i am interested in the thought process of our type. so i am using myself as my own test subject. here are my thoughts. your thoughts are welcomed.

 

Anonymous asked
What kind of thoughts are you interested in ?

all. all thoughts. 

charitysplace:

theintp:

Well I suppose we will just have to agree to disagree. I have always been of the opinion that fictional people cannot be typed. Because there is much data missing from the equation. In that we cannot speak with them or observe them in motion. We only see or read windows of moments in their lives. Yes we get a sense of who they are by the stories they live through. And yet to me…this is just me…it lacks depth. The type of depth that you need to label that person as a type. 
Now I can see your points though and I’m not saying that your wrong. But that I cannot give my stamps on things like this because it seems that certain elements are missing in order to determine something like this. I can see him in many N qualities and S. 
And I stand by my case that art is subjective. One person can read and watch something and take that character’s action and words to mean something other than what the creator of such art intended it to be. But there is no true way of knowing unless you could interview or personally observe that person. In my opinion. It almost feels like your trying to go on 75% data. Again which is why some people say these characters are gay or what not. People relate and then make them their own. 
Anytime that I see a list of Historical or Fictional Types, I view it with a grain of salt. There is no way for anyone to know what these people of the past or people that are not real truly are or were. 
And yes I admit that my view in matters such as this are certainly subjective. I can look at a painting and be provoked to feel contentment while you may feel uncomfortable. But that is what makes us all so very interesting. 


Most of this, I agree with — and I’m not arguing with you just to be irritating, I’m merely testing out both your theories and mine.
Yes, interpreting art is subjective. But interpreting “facts” about a character within the art itself is objective — the entire thing may be subjective, but the facts it establishes within itself are still objective facts, because there is “proof” for them. (Is this even making any sense? It makes sense inside my head, but… you never know.) No, you can’t go on motivations unless they state their motivations, but there are certain signs that point to specific functions (like Te — taking action in the real world, planning, making charts, stating the obvious facts, etc).
Historical figures exhibit traits that identify with certain types, like Jefferson’s self-contained brilliance, wide variety of interests, tendency to procrastinate, and notable laziness — looks like an INTP. Can’t be sure, but it looks that way, so even at 75% accuracy, he can comfortably fit into a specific profile. (Although there, too, the INTJs want him… and the INFJs have claimed him… so… again, apparently subjective interpretation, or, more likely, misinformation and assumptions presented without considering the evidence.)
That being said, none of it really matters… which is probably why I’m arguing about it. Does this matter? Nope? Excellent — something to debate! Thanks for the discussion, tho — it’s been entertaining, particularly as I’ve spent the last couple of days wrapping my mind around “subjective” and “objective” functions. ;)

I have to admit that I have also enjoyed this. Partly because like you said it has allowed me to test my own thoughts. Its rare to find the chance to verbalize the things that you talk about in your own mind. 
I was just thinking too about how we watch people and at times attempt to “type” them. I have had people around me type me wrongly because of things I do or say or how i interact with people and they take things to mean something that it is not and so on. And so because of my own personal experience of others typing me wrongly based on things that they misread in myself…or with me purposely misdirecting them…it causes me to question anyone typing anyone else. Although now Im straying away from art and fictional people into the real world. 
Sigh. 

charitysplace:

theintp:

Well I suppose we will just have to agree to disagree. I have always been of the opinion that fictional people cannot be typed. Because there is much data missing from the equation. In that we cannot speak with them or observe them in motion. We only see or read windows of moments in their lives. Yes we get a sense of who they are by the stories they live through. And yet to me…this is just me…it lacks depth. The type of depth that you need to label that person as a type. 

Now I can see your points though and I’m not saying that your wrong. But that I cannot give my stamps on things like this because it seems that certain elements are missing in order to determine something like this. I can see him in many N qualities and S. 

And I stand by my case that art is subjective. One person can read and watch something and take that character’s action and words to mean something other than what the creator of such art intended it to be. But there is no true way of knowing unless you could interview or personally observe that person. In my opinion. It almost feels like your trying to go on 75% data. Again which is why some people say these characters are gay or what not. People relate and then make them their own. 

Anytime that I see a list of Historical or Fictional Types, I view it with a grain of salt. There is no way for anyone to know what these people of the past or people that are not real truly are or were. 

And yes I admit that my view in matters such as this are certainly subjective. I can look at a painting and be provoked to feel contentment while you may feel uncomfortable. But that is what makes us all so very interesting. 

Most of this, I agree with — and I’m not arguing with you just to be irritating, I’m merely testing out both your theories and mine.

Yes, interpreting art is subjective. But interpreting “facts” about a character within the art itself is objective — the entire thing may be subjective, but the facts it establishes within itself are still objective facts, because there is “proof” for them. (Is this even making any sense? It makes sense inside my head, but… you never know.) No, you can’t go on motivations unless they state their motivations, but there are certain signs that point to specific functions (like Te — taking action in the real world, planning, making charts, stating the obvious facts, etc).

Historical figures exhibit traits that identify with certain types, like Jefferson’s self-contained brilliance, wide variety of interests, tendency to procrastinate, and notable laziness — looks like an INTP. Can’t be sure, but it looks that way, so even at 75% accuracy, he can comfortably fit into a specific profile. (Although there, too, the INTJs want him… and the INFJs have claimed him… so… again, apparently subjective interpretation, or, more likely, misinformation and assumptions presented without considering the evidence.)

That being said, none of it really matters… which is probably why I’m arguing about it. Does this matter? Nope? Excellent — something to debate! Thanks for the discussion, tho — it’s been entertaining, particularly as I’ve spent the last couple of days wrapping my mind around “subjective” and “objective” functions. ;)

I have to admit that I have also enjoyed this. Partly because like you said it has allowed me to test my own thoughts. Its rare to find the chance to verbalize the things that you talk about in your own mind. 

I was just thinking too about how we watch people and at times attempt to “type” them. I have had people around me type me wrongly because of things I do or say or how i interact with people and they take things to mean something that it is not and so on. And so because of my own personal experience of others typing me wrongly based on things that they misread in myself…or with me purposely misdirecting them…it causes me to question anyone typing anyone else. Although now Im straying away from art and fictional people into the real world. 

Sigh. 

charitysplace:

theintp:

charitysplace:

Both sensors, not intuitives.
Sherlock can notice a cat hair on a man’s leg at 10 paces. He uses his environment to gather clues from and improvise on his situation. He’s extremely visual, with a near-photographic memory (his mind palace) — that’s extroverted sensing, Se. ISTP. Ti-Se-Ni-Fe.
Mycroft uses so much introverted sensing (relating present situations to past experiences) and extroverted intuition (foreseeing problems, building connections between people) it’s coming out his ears — ISTJ, but occasionally INTP. ISTJ - Si-Te-Fi-Ne. INTP - Ti-Ne-Si-Fe.

I would normally not address something like this. But I laughed when I saw this and just felt like I would make an example. 
Granted that I am the only INTP that I know in real life. That is partly why I call my blog The INTP…because for me…I am. I had one of those “face palm” moments when people create a debate or make a negative comment on something as trivial as what personality type a fictional character is. I imagined this person reading along tumblr. Then seeing this picture and yelling NO! I HAVE TO PROVE THEM WRONG! BECAUSE I HAVE THOUGHT SO MUCH ABOUT THIS AND I AM RIGHT!! 
I hate to be the one to tell you. But Sherlock Holmes is not real. And so that in turn makes him a piece of art. And by that view art is subjective. I have seen people type him as INTP ISTP INTJ. The sad truth for people out there that want to be adamant about what “type” he is…its in the eye of the beholder. I could argue with valid evidence all three of those types. I bet I could even debate him as an ISTJ. 
The point is pictures like this are made for fun. Some people draw pictures of these characters as gay even. Now I do not think Sherlock is gay. But someone else might draw that conclusion or relate to him in that way. But that does not mean that I am going to run to them waving my finger in their face to tell them how wrong they are. 
I think now I am wondering if this is an INTP quality. Because it has never been in my nature to openly correct people over trivial things. Are you sure that you are not an intJ?
By the way I also got a little chuckle out of your tags. You must REALLY take this serious. Ive been reading Sherlock Holmes for my entire life and even I do not get that angry over things like that. 

Annoyance and anger are two different things. I considered passing this over, but so many people mistype Sherlock and Mycroft, that I felt it time to stand up for their true types. The ISTPs and the ISTJs deserve to be proud of these characters, because that is where their functions show us they belong. :)
It’s fairly important for people to understand how cognitive functions work, and how to identify them, because if they don’t, they can’t be sure of their own type, much less anyone else’s. 
Art may be subjective, but realistic characters display certain traits that correlate with cognitive functions. Yes, Sherlock ranges between ISTP and INTP in various episodes (even occasionally INTJ, but not often — he displays an awful lot of emotional-sharing lesser Fe in his emotional outbursts) but the fictional character and his television counterpart display the most evidence of Se-Ni — hyper awareness of environment leading to internal forethought conclusions, flashing back to the immediate steps to take to make what he wants to happen transpire.
If you think it’s un-INTP-like to correct people, I invite you to browse around the INTP sub-forum of Personality Cafe sometime. We range from polite to direct. :)
If typing is in the eye of the beholder,  is your view of him subjective?
Like you, I grew up on Sherlock Holmes and strongly identified with him as well (now, I understand why — the Ti-Fe process), but rereading the books as an adult has shown me that sadly, his brain process isn’t like mine. I would love to claim him as an INTP, but it seems unfair to rob the ISTPs of their most brilliant and popular character.

Well I suppose we will just have to agree to disagree. I have always been of the opinion that fictional people cannot be typed. Because there is much data missing from the equation. In that we cannot speak with them or observe them in motion. We only see or read windows of moments in their lives. Yes we get a sense of who they are by the stories they live through. And yet to me…this is just me…it lacks depth. The type of depth that you need to label that person as a type. 
Now I can see your points though and I’m not saying that your wrong. But that I cannot give my stamps on things like this because it seems that certain elements are missing in order to determine something like this. I can see him in many N qualities and S. 
And I stand by my case that art is subjective. One person can read and watch something and take that character’s action and words to mean something other than what the creator of such art intended it to be. But there is no true way of knowing unless you could interview or personally observe that person. In my opinion. It almost feels like your trying to go on 75% data. Again which is why some people say these characters are gay or what not. People relate and then make them their own. 
Anytime that I see a list of Historical or Fictional Types, I view it with a grain of salt. There is no way for anyone to know what these people of the past or people that are not real truly are or were. 
And yes I admit that my view in matters such as this are certainly subjective. I can look at a painting and be provoked to feel contentment while you may feel uncomfortable. But that is what makes us all so very interesting. 

charitysplace:

theintp:

charitysplace:

Both sensors, not intuitives.

Sherlock can notice a cat hair on a man’s leg at 10 paces. He uses his environment to gather clues from and improvise on his situation. He’s extremely visual, with a near-photographic memory (his mind palace) — that’s extroverted sensing, Se. ISTP. Ti-Se-Ni-Fe.

Mycroft uses so much introverted sensing (relating present situations to past experiences) and extroverted intuition (foreseeing problems, building connections between people) it’s coming out his ears — ISTJ, but occasionally INTP. ISTJ - Si-Te-Fi-Ne. INTP - Ti-Ne-Si-Fe.

I would normally not address something like this. But I laughed when I saw this and just felt like I would make an example. 

Granted that I am the only INTP that I know in real life. That is partly why I call my blog The INTP…because for me…I am. I had one of those “face palm” moments when people create a debate or make a negative comment on something as trivial as what personality type a fictional character is. I imagined this person reading along tumblr. Then seeing this picture and yelling NO! I HAVE TO PROVE THEM WRONG! BECAUSE I HAVE THOUGHT SO MUCH ABOUT THIS AND I AM RIGHT!! 

I hate to be the one to tell you. But Sherlock Holmes is not real. And so that in turn makes him a piece of art. And by that view art is subjective. I have seen people type him as INTP ISTP INTJ. The sad truth for people out there that want to be adamant about what “type” he is…its in the eye of the beholder. I could argue with valid evidence all three of those types. I bet I could even debate him as an ISTJ. 

The point is pictures like this are made for fun. Some people draw pictures of these characters as gay even. Now I do not think Sherlock is gay. But someone else might draw that conclusion or relate to him in that way. But that does not mean that I am going to run to them waving my finger in their face to tell them how wrong they are. 

I think now I am wondering if this is an INTP quality. Because it has never been in my nature to openly correct people over trivial things. Are you sure that you are not an intJ?

By the way I also got a little chuckle out of your tags. You must REALLY take this serious. Ive been reading Sherlock Holmes for my entire life and even I do not get that angry over things like that. 

Annoyance and anger are two different things. I considered passing this over, but so many people mistype Sherlock and Mycroft, that I felt it time to stand up for their true types. The ISTPs and the ISTJs deserve to be proud of these characters, because that is where their functions show us they belong. :)

It’s fairly important for people to understand how cognitive functions work, and how to identify them, because if they don’t, they can’t be sure of their own type, much less anyone else’s. 

Art may be subjective, but realistic characters display certain traits that correlate with cognitive functions. Yes, Sherlock ranges between ISTP and INTP in various episodes (even occasionally INTJ, but not often — he displays an awful lot of emotional-sharing lesser Fe in his emotional outbursts) but the fictional character and his television counterpart display the most evidence of Se-Ni — hyper awareness of environment leading to internal forethought conclusions, flashing back to the immediate steps to take to make what he wants to happen transpire.

If you think it’s un-INTP-like to correct people, I invite you to browse around the INTP sub-forum of Personality Cafe sometime. We range from polite to direct. :)

If typing is in the eye of the beholder,  is your view of him subjective?

Like you, I grew up on Sherlock Holmes and strongly identified with him as well (now, I understand why — the Ti-Fe process), but rereading the books as an adult has shown me that sadly, his brain process isn’t like mine. I would love to claim him as an INTP, but it seems unfair to rob the ISTPs of their most brilliant and popular character.

Well I suppose we will just have to agree to disagree. I have always been of the opinion that fictional people cannot be typed. Because there is much data missing from the equation. In that we cannot speak with them or observe them in motion. We only see or read windows of moments in their lives. Yes we get a sense of who they are by the stories they live through. And yet to me…this is just me…it lacks depth. The type of depth that you need to label that person as a type. 

Now I can see your points though and I’m not saying that your wrong. But that I cannot give my stamps on things like this because it seems that certain elements are missing in order to determine something like this. I can see him in many N qualities and S. 

And I stand by my case that art is subjective. One person can read and watch something and take that character’s action and words to mean something other than what the creator of such art intended it to be. But there is no true way of knowing unless you could interview or personally observe that person. In my opinion. It almost feels like your trying to go on 75% data. Again which is why some people say these characters are gay or what not. People relate and then make them their own. 

Anytime that I see a list of Historical or Fictional Types, I view it with a grain of salt. There is no way for anyone to know what these people of the past or people that are not real truly are or were. 

And yes I admit that my view in matters such as this are certainly subjective. I can look at a painting and be provoked to feel contentment while you may feel uncomfortable. But that is what makes us all so very interesting. 

charitysplace:

Both sensors, not intuitives.
Sherlock can notice a cat hair on a man’s leg at 10 paces. He uses his environment to gather clues from and improvise on his situation. He’s extremely visual, with a near-photographic memory (his mind palace) — that’s extroverted sensing, Se. ISTP. Ti-Se-Ni-Fe.
Mycroft uses so much introverted sensing (relating present situations to past experiences) and extroverted intuition (foreseeing problems, building connections between people) it’s coming out his ears — ISTJ, but occasionally INTP. ISTJ - Si-Te-Fi-Ne. INTP - Ti-Ne-Si-Fe.

I would normally not address something like this. But I laughed when I saw this and just felt like I would make an example. 
Granted that I am the only INTP that I know in real life. That is partly why I call my blog The INTP…because for me…I am. I had one of those “face palm” moments when people create a debate or make a negative comment on something as trivial as what personality type a fictional character is. I imagined this person reading along tumblr. Then seeing this picture and yelling NO! I HAVE TO PROVE THEM WRONG! BECAUSE I HAVE THOUGHT SO MUCH ABOUT THIS AND I AM RIGHT!! 
I hate to be the one to tell you. But Sherlock Holmes is not real. And so that in turn makes him a piece of art. And by that view art is subjective. I have seen people type him as INTP ISTP INTJ. The sad truth for people out there that want to be adamant about what “type” he is…its in the eye of the beholder. I could argue with valid evidence all three of those types. I bet I could even debate him as an ISTJ. 
The point is pictures like this are made for fun. Some people draw pictures of these characters as gay even. Now I do not think Sherlock is gay. But someone else might draw that conclusion or relate to him in that way. But that does not mean that I am going to run to them waving my finger in their face to tell them how wrong they are. 
I think now I am wondering if this is an INTP quality. Because it has never been in my nature to openly correct people over trivial things. Are you sure that you are not an intJ?
By the way I also got a little chuckle out of your tags. You must REALLY take this serious. Ive been reading Sherlock Holmes for my entire life and even I do not get that angry over things like that. 

charitysplace:

Both sensors, not intuitives.

Sherlock can notice a cat hair on a man’s leg at 10 paces. He uses his environment to gather clues from and improvise on his situation. He’s extremely visual, with a near-photographic memory (his mind palace) — that’s extroverted sensing, Se. ISTP. Ti-Se-Ni-Fe.

Mycroft uses so much introverted sensing (relating present situations to past experiences) and extroverted intuition (foreseeing problems, building connections between people) it’s coming out his ears — ISTJ, but occasionally INTP. ISTJ - Si-Te-Fi-Ne. INTP - Ti-Ne-Si-Fe.

I would normally not address something like this. But I laughed when I saw this and just felt like I would make an example. 

Granted that I am the only INTP that I know in real life. That is partly why I call my blog The INTP…because for me…I am. I had one of those “face palm” moments when people create a debate or make a negative comment on something as trivial as what personality type a fictional character is. I imagined this person reading along tumblr. Then seeing this picture and yelling NO! I HAVE TO PROVE THEM WRONG! BECAUSE I HAVE THOUGHT SO MUCH ABOUT THIS AND I AM RIGHT!! 

I hate to be the one to tell you. But Sherlock Holmes is not real. And so that in turn makes him a piece of art. And by that view art is subjective. I have seen people type him as INTP ISTP INTJ. The sad truth for people out there that want to be adamant about what “type” he is…its in the eye of the beholder. I could argue with valid evidence all three of those types. I bet I could even debate him as an ISTJ. 

The point is pictures like this are made for fun. Some people draw pictures of these characters as gay even. Now I do not think Sherlock is gay. But someone else might draw that conclusion or relate to him in that way. But that does not mean that I am going to run to them waving my finger in their face to tell them how wrong they are. 

I think now I am wondering if this is an INTP quality. Because it has never been in my nature to openly correct people over trivial things. Are you sure that you are not an intJ?

By the way I also got a little chuckle out of your tags. You must REALLY take this serious. Ive been reading Sherlock Holmes for my entire life and even I do not get that angry over things like that. 

(Source: theintp)

Mr.Knightley from Jane Austen’s Emma is said to be an INTP. To which I tend to agree. Being a student of classical literature I found that out of Ms. Austen’s novels that this character was nearly the only one that I really related with. Which is something that I look for when I read a book or watch a show/movie. Characters in which I can see myself in to a degree. And lets just face it. That quote. Its pretty funny and accurate to how I think of some people that are “smart”. 

Mr.Knightley from Jane Austen’s Emma is said to be an INTP. To which I tend to agree. Being a student of classical literature I found that out of Ms. Austen’s novels that this character was nearly the only one that I really related with. Which is something that I look for when I read a book or watch a show/movie. Characters in which I can see myself in to a degree. And lets just face it. That quote. Its pretty funny and accurate to how I think of some people that are “smart”. 

response to being called Pretentious.

i just received this private message: recently someone on the intp subreddit called your writing pretentious. I read through your archive and enjoyed and identified with a lot of it. I still haven’t decided if I agree with them as I see how a few of the things you talk about can be seen as pretentious or arrogant. Im wondering how much of it is controversial but true and how much is an emotionally satisfying rationalization. i guess i’m trying to gauge your level of self awareness before following your blog.

to which my response would be. i care very little about what other people think or feel about my words. if they view them as pretentious or arrogant then so be it. i care not. as stated on the home page of my blog these are MY thoughts not those of anyone else. i have never asked for people to agree with me nor do i care if they do. we all think and feel how we do based on our own opinions. and so when you read my blog you are reading how i view things. again…how…I view things. there is no emotional satisfying rationalization as i do not require that. i am old enough to be comfortable with myself and am well aware of who i am that i do not look to public view for some sort of confirmation of my thoughts. this is how i am. and if someone sees that as being arrogant…oh well. dont read what i put out. however the person that sent this to me gains my respect by vocalizing their words to me. but i cannot and wont ever make apologies for who i am and how i think. no one should for that matter. 

INTP and my ISTP Friend

so i have just finished talking about how i relate and do not relate with my INFP and INTJ friends. these three friends of mine are the closest in type to me considering that they all are only one letter off…and yet what a difference that makes in how we interact and how i interact with the three of them on different levels. again i would say that had i an ENTP then my collection would be complete. perhaps that position will be filled one day. 

the ISTP.

not to diminish the relationships that i have with the last two types. but it can be said that the ISTP and me (INTP) have more in common mentally and we communicate in nearly the same way with one another. there are some differences that arise in our lives, but since we both seek a mental and intellectual friendship without any strings attached, it works out very well. not to say that i would prefer that type of friendship with every friend that i have. but for the ISTP and i…this works out very well. and as i describe this relationship…it is going to be…abnormal. however. that is precisely how we like it. lets begin. 

firstly my ISTP is of the fairer sex. she and i have known each other the longest out of my three type friends. and that does not mean that she has an advantage over the others because of that…its just a fact. she and i became friends and grew close. which led to everyone around us speculating that we were drawing close in a romantic way. when we received wind of these rumors…the idea was so preposterous we laughed almost in shock over it. and then after the laughter…we felt disgusted at the idea. the thought had literally never crossed our minds. and then we went on our merry way. 

im going to describe her differently from the other two. i could start off talking about her introversion compared with mine. but its safe to say that it is nearly the same. with the exception that she is married…and her recharge from society includes being at home with her husband and dog. and again a process that needs about a day to take place and then shes good to go for a while. like myself. and like me she is constantly mistaken for an extrovert. people are distracted….and by purpose….with our extrovert masks. slipping in and out of society and introverting our true thoughts and feelings…wearing a mask for whatever situation we find ourselves in with the intent of discovering new information and data or just to simply make it through the evening. 

now lets analyze how we operate. and i use this word with purpose as we both operate with robotic precision…though again, behind our human faces. after all. INTPs and ISTPs are very similar in this way. when breaking down our types along side one another she and i are both Introverted Thinkers. both of these are our dominate cognitive functions. INTPs and ISTPS are the only one of the types with Introverted Thinking as their Dominate. this is clearly evident in our friendship as this is really and truly how we became friends in the first place. and it can be said that in those early moments we most likely had never until then encountered another person with this Dominate trait. when we are together and locked in an in depth conversation we tend to forget about others that are around us. and this even means that we forget that others are even a part of the same conversation. to us we are the only ones speaking as we are connecting almost on a telepathic level. and then when another person adds their comments we…and i almost hate to admit it….humor them to a degree and take what they are saying as a kindness to them…but secretly we both nearly disregard whatever it was that they added as we have both either…thought of the same idea hours ago or both know that whatever was said was irrelevant to the deeper conversation that is taking place below the surface that the outsider is not even aware is happening. the ISTP and i peel away layers and layers of thought and care little about how long we take to do it. there have been times where we were socializing in group settings…dinners…parties what have you…and we become dead locked in an examination of a topic….soon we come out of our trance and realize that everyone else has left or are on the verge of leaving and we were unaware despite their attempts to alert us. 

in comparison the INFP and the INTJ utilize Extroverted Thinking. for the INFP Extroverted Thinking is her Inferior Function…and for the INTJ it is his Auxiliary Function. this type of Thinking is great for jumping from topic to topic and analyzing multiple broader subjects. so usually when i find myself conversing with the two of them we jump from topic to topic and analyze maybe half way down into a topic before branching off into something else. yet with the ISTP„, as we are both Introverted Thinkers… we will spend the entire night talking about one subject until we have scrapped the bottom and there is nothing left about it to be said. in doing this we take each little microscopic detail…look at it under a light and a magnifying glass…know it completely and then do the same until is fully understood to our liking. i think this is why we get lost in conversation and it takes us so long to talk about one thing. i cannot relate the amount of times people have entered a room and said…”you two are STILL talking??” to which we usually ignore them. partly because we werent even aware of their presence in the first place. she and i communicate non-verbally quiet often. i will touch on this later but our last functions are Extrovert Feeling. notice that people with this function have significant facial expressions that determine either how they feel or think on something. for us since it is our last function…though the expressions be slight we have the ability to read each other very well and so we use this as a means to communicate…even with slight movements of the eyes. 

after our dominate functions the ISTP and i differ. she being an Extrovert Sensor and me using Extroverted Intuition. a staple of an Extrovert Sensor is that they will take the time to be good at things like sports. and these aspects of our types are what sets the major differences in the two of us. now because im Extroverted Intuition this means that after my Introverted Thinking…which has the craving for exploring a topic till its dead and in the ground…i do enjoy scattered multiple ideas and topics especially abstract and unknown or even developing new ones. which allow me to hang with the INFP and INTJ. this also seems to effect the ISTP and my likes and dislikes. and this makes her and my relationship even that more interesting. we have nothing in common in that area. nothing at all. i cannot honestly think of one thing that she and i can do together for fun that we both enjoy. she loves the beach…i would rather be in the mountains. she loves sports and is very good at them…ISTPs are known for being professionals at sports. this is why sometimes in pictures they are depicted as ninjas. i could not care less about sports but i love backpacking and rock climbing. something that allows me physical exercise but fuels my idealistic and adventurous spirit. and she is not interested in the least concerning camping or exploration. but we do meet in the middle at running. in fact that was something that we at one time did together and was probably the ONLY thing that we ever had in common as far as activities. 

we both like to read but we read completely different things. shes into real life…true crime…factual realistic novels and mysteries. im into sci-fi and fantasy. we come together however in psychological thrillers and anything that touches on the study of someones mind. she hates going to the movies and i love it. her words are…”why would i want to go sit in a room with you for two hours and waist the time that we could be talking about something?” and thats not just with me thats with people in general. i can remember twice she and i went to movies that she actually wanted to see. they both however had main characters that she related with and i think for her seeing them was mainly part of a psychological study…at least thats most likely how she justified it in her head. while i can sit in a theater with a friend and watch a great film and have that connection with someone next to me as we are both having this experience together. 

now not to put myself on a pedestal but this is in fact…..just a…well a fact. i will bow down to her intelligence and give her the credit to see things in a way that i do not. but i have noticed that i have the capacity for grasping more abstract thoughts and ideas in a way that she cannot. i think this is most likely why she comes to me often for advice and counsel. and for the most part i dont have to say much other than…”yes that is how i would view this as well.” almost to get rid of her self doubt. and then at times offering my point of view and adding in that last piece that she was missing. a piece that is floating around aimlessly. which is an area that she has little ability to work in. me on the other hand…well of course we know that INTPs are more than equipped to work in that regard. 

lastly we come together and are similar in our last function of Extroverted Feeling. it kinda makes me laugh when i look at a graph and see that poor little F at the bottom and its so small compared to the other functions. i will say….and i am not being sexist…but it is true that women are more emotional than men. even in the Feeling world an F man is less emotional….for the most part. we cant say always. this being said she and i deal with our emotions in nearly the same way. and yet she is slightly more feeling than me. both of us are not swayed by someones sad story. in fact sometimes when someone comes to us with a sad tale of absolute woe, she might look over at me and roll her eyes. to which i… half smirk. we arent being mean…but we both have such control and instant understanding of our feelings and where they belong and we are aware of that in the other…its amusing for us to be with each other and know that we both are thinking the same thing. we both care little for titles or social norms. to know us you wouldnt think that…but we both agree that it can be exhausting to do the normal things….simple things like small talk or greetings and goodbyes. we live a large distance away now and so this seems to fit our friendship style even better. i cannot explain how refreshing it is to have a friend that will call and just instantly start talking about whats on their mind or the reason for the call without having to share in the small talk or the opening lines of “hello how are you?” and then when we are finished saying a real quick. “ok bye” click. and then we go about our business. we certainly are friends of the minds. the mental friendship that we have is one that i value very highly. its interesting to think that we dont even view one another as male and female or that our ages are separated by a large gap or that there is a great distance in our locations (after she moved away). the mental friendship that we have makes all of those other “social norms” irrelevant. by her i think that i can almost understand what it must be like to have an INTP friend. and yet still….maybe not. but its close. 

i suppose i am done with this study on the three types that are close to mine and just so happen to be my friends. interesting how they are all three so different from one another. and yet they all connect to me in ways that are important and relevant to my own type. what makes it even more interesting for me is that all three of them do not fall into the socially normal group of age, gender and location specifications of what a man of my age would normally be drawn to for friends. though i do have friends that are closer to my age and of the same gender and are a little more….normal….i know that i do not connect with them as i do these three. and i wonder that about other INTPs. do you seek out people for friends based on these qualification? or do you have friendships with people that you value that are not what you would call “typical” friend partners? i would be interested to know. 

INTP and my INTJ Friend.

if you are just now seeing this post then you must know that this is the second of three parts. i am making a study of the three friends that i have that are the closest in personality types to myself. me being an INTP and them being an iStp…inFp and an intJ. if only i had an Entp them my collection would be complete. alas i do not…for now. my last post was comparing how i relate with my INFP and how i see our similarities and differences. now im going to do the same with the INTJ. 

the INTJ and me.

its interesting how going from an F friend to a T friend really causes you to shift nearly entirely the way that you interact with them. observing the INFP and the INTJ interact with each other is also interesting as their conversation style is different from mine with both of them. its completely fascinating how humans interact with one another, and personality types is a tool that i utilize to understand that behavior even better. well lets analyze the basics. 

the INTJ and i are both introverts. again…like the INFP he and i have similar and different connection to being an introvert. first we both need to be cut off from people in order to recharge ourselves after prolonged social interactions. where we differ is that, again…i am more extreme in the sense that i must be completely and utterly alone. and again really only for a short amount of time for me to recharge myself. for him it varies but in a small degree. his solitude is that he must be in a place where people are not directly engaging him. the stipulations for this however means that he can be in public places but not in a close space like a coffee shop but in an open area like a park. i have wondered but not said to him…that perhaps the physical closeness of people in his “physical comfort zone” is the rule for this. yet he has also stated that in his recharge phase he is perfectly fine being in the presence of a friend or family member, maybe even in the same room, as long as they are not engaging one another. so if he were at home recharging his batteries he would rather either be alone…or to be in the presence of someone that does not “bother” him in some way. that “bothering” him can be anything from someone attempting to engage him in conversation that he is not interested in or simply being in the vicinity making unwanted noise. on rare occasions however when he is feeling drained on top of just being in a foul mood he reverts to my form of introversion, and must cut himself off completely. again though..this is rare. 

with the INFP i can relate to her via our auxiliary and tertiary functions. the interesting thing about INTJs and INTPs…is that we have NO functions in common…and yet we arrive at similar conclusions and i have found this to be true with my INTJ. i do have to say that he is a milder J than most INTJs that i have met. some that i have encountered have that stereotypical INTJ way about them as if they are far superior to everyone around them. it can be said that not all of them are that way. not saying that my INTJ isnt at times arrogant and overly sure about certain things. for the most part i think that how he interacts with me is different from how he does with people that he is more familiar with..such as his family. when i observe him with his family his TJ really takes over and that complete unrelatability with his and their emotions is so evident that its just text book. its so textbook that it makes me laugh…internally of course. he and i have had numerous discussions about people and the one piece of data that he almost always…nearly every time…fails to take into account is… their emotions. there are times where he sees things in black and white. so i have made it my job to introduce him to the colors of people. understanding that, in order to achieve a full understanding of someone that you must take into consideration their emotions as part of the equation. tracing that can lead you to understand motives behind behavior. he almost always spear heads a situation directly to an answer using his ironclad thoughts. sometimes moving quickly over smaller details and labeling them as irrelevant or missing them all together. and then when he and i talk about it together i manage to get him to see those smaller things and realize their importance to the big picture. whenever i bring something out such as this in order to explain why something happened or could happen based on each little piece and why its important to the conclusion…he wags his index finger in the air and says “Right.” as if to agree with me and then adding that into his head as a piece he had failed to notice. 

our conversations are different from the INFPs and mine in the sense that she allows me to explore human emotion so that i can better understand it for future reference and for myself. conversations and discussions with him however are laced with his TJ thoughts being said openly and straight forward and my TP thoughts mixing in and adding some color to his black and white. visually i see his thoughts as an armored knight attempting to make it to his destination in the quickest way possible. and then my thoughts as a robed scholar in bare feet taking him the long way around through a forest or a winding path and then arriving at the same goal, but showing him things that he otherwise would have overlooked. at the end he might be annoyed that it took so long…but he cant deny that he was enlightened along the way. 

communicating with him one on one is different from one on one with the INFP. as i said before i have learned to reign in my bluntness with her. and not to keep a part of myself private from her as if i dont think she can handle that. yet i hold some blunt statements back from her because it isnt her way and i speak in a manner that allows her to understand my thoughts, explaining the background behind the bluntness. with the TJ however its different. and in fact sometimes i have caught myself being MORE blunt than i would typically be. the INTJ has no problem with just plainly saying…”their just stupid!”…. now. while i might think that someone is indeed….stupid….i for the most part think it…and then wonder: why are they being stupid? and then start a process to understand why and at the end remove the “stupid” label and replace it with an answer backing up their actions. and yet i find that when he and i are talking about people i am more apt to label then as he does. or verbalize my initial judgments about someone before i have gathered all the data to cushion those judgments. to which he replies…”how very J of you.” touche INTJ….touche. 

one interesting thing that the INTJ does…which i cant decide if this is a J quality only or not. i have never seen a P do this but i have seen nearly every FJ or TJ that i know do it at some point. but the INTJ does it so much that its almost a staple for him…if he knows it or not, i do not know. in retelling events or conversations that he has had…he nearly always misreads tones or facial expressions. and by misread i mean that he usually puts a negative spin on things that in actuality do not. or he might read a message from someone and read it wrongly. example. he read a message that i had sent to someone and we were talking about it. when he said my words back to me as he was reenacting what i said…he said it with a very hateful and sarcastic tone as if that is how i meant it. which i of course did not and do not say things to people in the manner that he relayed it back to me. it was almost as if he took my words and then put a J spin on them. i think he is becoming aware of it though now that i think about it, because sometimes he will be relating something to me and repeat something someone said in his J sarcastic voice…then go back and say…”well maybe they didnt say it like that.” then why say it that way to start with? again i am not certain if this is strictly a J quality but most of the ones that i know do this. so thats all the data that i have to go on in that regard. 

i think other types misread our typed messages (at least for me as an INTP) and words and forget that when we say something, its almost always even toned and with a neutral voice. if we are overly sarcastic and harsh sounding…its because we are making a joke. we view everything and everyone as something to understand…void of biased opinion. and there it is. thats the core of our differences. we both want to understand people and things. we want that knowledge. he likes to put labels on things. and i like to take them apart and see whats making it move. then ill hand it to him… and let him put a label on it. by the time hes done that…ive found something new. i suggest you find you an INTJ. mess with their heads. its a lot of fun. and surprisingly easy.